It’s the summer holidays and many separated parents face the same question: how do we make child contact arrangements that work for everyone; especially the children? At Ash Family Law, we understand that planning holiday contact can feel stressful and emotionally charged. That’s why we’ve created this practical guide to help you navigate summer access arrangements with confidence and clarity.

Why Summer Holidays Can Be Tricky

Unlike term-time schedules, which tend to be predictable, the summer break introduces a host of variables: longer holidays, family trips, childcare logistics, and more free time to fill. Without a clear plan in place, it’s easy for misunderstandings or disputes to arise.

1. Start the Conversation Early

The earlier you begin discussing summer arrangements, the more time you’ll have to reach a mutual agreement. Ideally, conversations should start several months in advance to give both parties time to coordinate time off work, make travel plans, and ensure the children know what to expect.

Tip: Try to communicate in writing (email, text, or a co-parenting app such as the court endorsed App, ‘Our Family Wizard’) so, there’s a record of what’s been discussed and agreed.

2. Focus on the Child’s Best Interests

The most important factor in any access arrangement is what’s best for the child. This includes maintaining meaningful relationships with both parents, ensuring continuity and routine where possible, and giving children a say if they’re old enough to express a view.

Consider:

• How long your child can reasonably be away from either parent
• Their social plans and activities
• The importance of family traditions or cultural events

3. Be Clear and Specific

Vague agreements can lead to conflict. Spell out exactly:

• Dates and times for handovers
• Pick-up/drop-off locations
• Holiday plans (especially if they involve travel abroad)
• Who is responsible for expenses or travel arrangements

If you have a child arrangements order in place, check whether it needs to be varied or if it already provides guidance for school holidays.

4. Be Flexible (Within Reason)

Life happens. Plans may need to change due to illness, work commitments, or unexpected events. Where possible, try to be accommodating but also expect the same in return. A cooperative, child-focused approach helps build trust and avoids unnecessary friction.

Helpful tool: Parenting plan templates or online calendars can make it easier to track and adjust schedules as needed.

5. Don’t Involve the Children in Disputes

Children should feel excited about their summer, not caught in the middle of conflict. Avoid asking them to take sides, carry messages, or choose between parents. Keep them informed in an age-appropriate way and reassure them that both parents support their holiday plans.

6. Seek Legal Advice if Needed

If discussions break down or you’re unsure of your legal rights, it’s important to get advice early. At Ash Family Law, we regularly assist parents in resolving disputes, whether through negotiation, mediation, or court applications.

We can help with:

• Drafting or varying child arrangements orders
• Resolving disagreements over travel or holiday dates
• Advice on international travel and obtaining the other parent’s consent

With open communication, clear planning, and a child-centred approach, most separated parents can navigate summer holiday arrangements successfully. The key is to plan, be respectful, and keep the child’s wellbeing at the heart of every decision.

If you need support with child contact or holiday arrangements, Ash Family Law is here to help. Contact ustoday for friendly, practical advice tailored to your family’s needs.